How to reconnect with old friends in 5 easy steps
Have you lost touch with someone over the years? Would you like to rekindle the friendship but never have the time? This article tells you how to reconnect with old friends in 5 easy steps.
About a year ago, my childhood BFF and I started game night on the second Friday of each month. We lost touch over the years. Things like attending different colleges, various moves around the state then a move two states away, homeownership, kids, and careers tended to get in the way. After my family moved back to our hometown, my BFF and I would see each other once a year – maybe. We would always say that we needed to stay in touch more often. It never happened. Eight years later, I decided we would never get together without a concrete plan. Now, we see each other at least every other month.
Here is how we do it.
- Get a recurring date on the calendar – Agree on a recurring date and time to get together. Pick whatever is most comfortable for both of you – weekly, once a month, twice a month. Once a month works best for us. We are both married, work full-time, and I have a teenager at home. We picked the second Friday of each month simply because I thought it would be easy to remember. Friday was picked because my BFF lives in the country and already drives past my house on the way home from work. Next, pencil in the date on your calendar for the next 12 months. I created a recurring event on my Google calendar. I will try to post instructions on how to do that later.
- Plan the place and activity in advance – Pick a place to meet and plan the activity. Do this when agreeing on a time to eliminate any stress going forward. I don’t know about you but, sometimes for me, the stress of trying to pick a place and decide what we are going to do is enough to call the whole thing off. We picked my house since she drives right by and so my daughter could take part if she wasn’t doing her own teenage thing. Our activity is board games and cards with some wine thrown in to keep things interesting. As kids, we played board games constantly (without the wine) and still enjoy playing them.
- Be flexible – Now that you have agreed on a date, place, and activity, it is okay to be flexible. Life happens and may interfere with the best laid plans. If one of you has a conflict one month, either adjust the date that month or skip until the next month. Since it is already on your calendar for the next month, you do not need to worry about a year (or eight) slipping past.
- Confirm the date – I usually try to confirm on Monday or Tuesday of the second week. If your schedule is a bit busier than mine, you may want to confirm the prior week.
- Have fun! Set aside the day’s problems and enjoy yourself. Life is too short to let it get in the way of what is important – like reconnecting with old friends.
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